Being a parent is not easy. Many of us know this from personal experience.
Your kids inevitably make dumb mistakes and you have to take them aside and discipline them accordingly. If they make the same mistake again, you generally need to do something drastic to deliver your message.
Most of us get to do that in the privacy of our own little world.
Kirk Ferentz is going to need to do it with an entire state watching. He’s going to need to do something I don’t ever recall any other coach doing: He’s going to have to kick his own son off his football team.
Ferentz’ son, James, a promising young offensive lineman, was cited for an alcohol-related offense in Iowa City last October during his first semester as a member of the Iowa football team. Few people had any problem with Ferentz eventually reinstating his son as a member of the team. Anyone can make one mistake.
When James got into the same sort of situation again in the wee hours of Monday morning, he put Dad in a terrible spot. Repeat offenders generally are asked to leave.
If you kick some kid off your team, you generally don’t ever have any more contact with them. You grit your teeth, turn your back, move on and eventually forget. What happens when you kick a kid off your team and have to look at them across the dinner table the day after that? And the day after that? And the day after that?
And what message are you sending your other players when you your own flesh and blood more slack than you would others?
We’re about to learn an awful lot about Kirk Ferentz.